A good relationship isn't a game you
play or an
ego trip you take. It is about love and two
people.
Loving someone can give us the greatest joy
we
can ever know and it can hurt more than we
can
believe too. When it does not really hurt when
that
person did something disappointing to you, but
really hurts when you see that person in pain
and
sadness, then you know you truly love that
person.

Loving someone means you should be ready
to
experience heartache and happiness at the
same
time. That's the reward and that's the risk.
Unless
we are willing to experience it, we will never
really
know what it's like to love and be loved.

Sharing love is probably the most valuable and
meaningful experience a person can ever
have.
And there's a difference between being in love
with someone and loving someone. It's the
difference between a love that's fickle, wild
and
short-lived and one that's tender and
passionate,
nurturing and lasts a long time. The first is
easy.
The second, the one that really matters to all of
us, takes work -- because it's about keeping a
relationship.

Loving someone takes efforts. We have to be
able
to communicate with each other. Nobody can
read
anyone else's mind. We always presume that
our
partner knows what we think and feel. Maybe in
time we might be able to predict or sense each
other's thoughts but it's never perfect and
takes
time to develop.

Getting the chance to love and be loved by
someone is blessed. Respect him/her for who
he/she is, and not what you want him/her to be.
Everyone is pretty and special in his/her own
special way. No one is perfect. It is true love
which closes the gap of imperfectness to form
a
smooth surface of acceptance for each other.
True love sees and accepts a person for who
he/she is. It is also true love which makes a
person change for the better.

The power of true love to a person is
undeniable.

A relationship needs commitments too. What
is
love without commitments from each other
anyway? It's like principles and values.
Everyone
has them but they only mean as much as we
are
willing to stand for them.

The same goes for our commitments to
relationships, and the person we love.

"Love is like an antique vase. It's hard to find,
hard
to get, but easy to break."

Every day everywhere, people fall in love ... but
just how many of these relationships are self-
sacrificing love, and not just relationships
which
are formed only for the intense feeling of
falling in
love? I know hundreds of friends who say the
magical words "I love you"... but more often
than
not, the truth is just -- I am IN love with you.
There
is a difference between being in love with
someone and loving someone. If a person
says
he/she is in love with you, he/she means that
he/she likes you for who you are now and
he/she
fell in love with you because of the present
you.

This kind of love is temporary and lasts only as
long as the fairytale lasts. When fairy
godmother
comes in at midnight to whirl us back to reality,
we
see the heartache of such a relationship...
where
both were only IN love with each other.

But if a person says he/she loves you, he/she
means that he/she loves you unconditionally
for
who you are now, who you were in the past and
who you might be in the future. When he/she
says
he/she loves you and really means it, you have
to
ask yourself if you love him/her too or if you're
in
love with the idea of being in love. It is very
hard
to see the difference through logical thinking.
Let
your heart guide u. May you be blessed on
your
soul-searching journey for your soulmate.